Building Your Village: Cultivating Community and Self-Compassion in Motherhood (On My Mama Pt 2)
Motherhood is powerful, but it doesn’t have to be isolating.
When was the last time you recharged your spirit through a shared laugh, or gained insight from someone who truly understands your journey? While being a mom is often celebrated as a badge of honor, it can also be emotionally draining and lonely. That’s where community—the village—becomes essential.
Not everyone has a built-in support system, but the beautiful truth is: you can build one. And doing so is one of the most radical acts of self-care and self-compassion you can take as a mother.
Why Community Matters for Moms
Having a village isn’t just a convenience—it’s a key to emotional wellness, mental health, and long-term support. Your village can take many forms, but it should be a space where you feel seen, supported, and safe.
Types of Supportive Villages:
Support Groups - Spaces where participants share experiences, offer encouragement, and provide feedback (when invited).
Therapy Groups - Facilitated by licensed mental health professionals, these provide a safe container for growth, emotional processing, and healing.
Faith-Based or Culturally-Centered Communities - Rooted in shared beliefs or identity, these groups foster a deep sense of belonging and understanding.
Practical Support Networks- Whether it’s help with childcare, shared meals, or housework. These acts of service free up your time and energy so you can care for yourself.
👉 No matter the format, your village should reflect your values and needs. Whether it’s family, close friends, a virtual community, or a local group, choose one where you can show up authentically—mess and all.
Reciprocity: Strengthening the Village You Build
A healthy support system isn’t just about receiving, it thrives on reciprocity. Ask for help when needed, and offer support when you can.
Share your experiences
Celebrate each other’s wins
Offer your presence and empathy
The more intentional you are about nurturing your village, the more it will grow with you.
Practicing Self-Compassion as a Mom
Cultivating self-compassion isn’t a one-time act—it’s a daily practice that helps you push back against self-doubt, perfectionism, and burnout. Here’s how to make it part of your everyday life:
Daily Self-Compassion Practices:
Quick Mindful Moments
Engage your senses to ground yourself. Try savoring your morning coffee or cooking mindfully with music and calm lighting.Speak Kindly to Yourself
Notice your inner dialogue. When you make a mistake, ask: “What would I say to my child in this moment?” Then say that to yourself.Reframe Critical Thoughts
Instead of saying, “I’m not doing enough,” try, “I’m doing the best I can with what I have today.”Rest Your Cape
The "Superwoman" trope is a myth. You’re allowed to rest, make mistakes, and have off days. Grace > perfection.Say No Without Guilt
Boundaries are self-respect in action. Saying “no” to others is often saying “yes” to your well-being.Seek Professional Support
Therapy can be a safe space to explore self-doubt, reduce stress, and strengthen your emotional resilience. And if therapy isn’t an option right now, consider peer or support groups that align with your current needs.
🧠 Key takeaway: Let someone hold space for you—you don’t have to carry it all alone.
You Deserve Community. You Deserve Compassion.
Building your village and practicing self-compassion are ongoing acts of radical care. You don’t need to do motherhood alone. Whether you’re finding your community or strengthening the one you have, remember: your well-being matters too.
Keep showing up for yourself—with gentleness, grace, and love.
